My husband text a former male coworker to tell another former coworker(female) that he loves her and she'll always be his Mexican chica.
I approached him about the text and he swears on his life that he meant nothing by it, he doesn't look at her that way and that he isn't messing around.I don't buy that crap..what makes somebody send such a message.
He told me that he confided in her when we were going through our problems living at his mom's house at the time-and he had no one else to turn to. He said that she gave him an unbiased opinion of situations that were going on between us. Mind you, I would tell him the same thing, but when she said it , he listened...what makes her words so golden? I thought.
He says they've worked together for five years and it is nothing but a work friendship, but I told him it sounds like flirting to me and he denies it.
What do you guys think about this situation?
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In the absence of anything stronger, I'd say drop it. There was a girl that I managed who I really enjoyed spending time with. She was in a relationship, but we could always talk frankly about love and our personal lives. I generally didn't do that at work with girls due to not wanting to seem overly friendly. After a while though, I got to know her well enough that one of the nicknames I gave for her was "wifey". She thought it was funny and neither one of us ever thought we'd be in a relationship together, but we did share a lot of great conversation.
If I could poke inside your head right now, I'm guessing that it is hard for you to understand that you husband had such a close relationship with another woman, when that emotional intimacy is something that you deeply desire. There's nothing wrong with the way you feel, but he doesn't appear to be guilty of anything more than a casual text. I'd say focus on whatever current issues you may have in your marriage (if any) instead of bringing this other girl into the picture that doesn't seem like an affair.1
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