if you're your worst enemy, what do you think you can do to to make things right?
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Everyone is inclined to behave in certain ways in certain situations. some ways are less productive than others and they're all individual. You gotta accept you have these inclinations first off. After that you gotta try and work out why you do the things you do. There's always a reason. If it's hard to find out, read some books on psychology. The more you understand about people, and thus you, the easier it is to figure yourself out, or alternatively get a shrink to help you. anyone that says "just do this instead" doesn't understand there's always stuff behind actions that have to be resolved first. Doing what you do, you've created a feedback loop in your thinking that reinforces itself. Being able to rationalise it means you can look at it more logically and try and think of some ways to get around or avoid such actions. The very act of thinking these things means if they're about to happen you're more likely to catch yourself at it and "head yourself off at the pass". With repetition you can create another loop that intersects the first one. This is effectively reprogramming yourself.1