There's this one girl in my college who I've spoken to a few times , but mostly our conversations have been very brief . I think she's a bit interested because she smiles a lot and she indirectly asked me if I was dating someone .
Anyway, today I saw her and I just wanted to see what she does . I think she saw me , but she did'nt say hi or anything , she kinda gave me the impression she was waiting for me to do something.
Girls , if you spoke to a guy a few times and was interested in him , would you be a bit scared to approach him or would you confidently approach him ?
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Here's the thing. The times I've ever approached a guy -- even as a friend -- he's gotten the idea that I'm interested in starting things out "hot and heavy," which really isn't my style as far as relationships are concerned. I like to take things slow -- not at a crawl, but just not rushing into things. The times that a guy's approached me, things have progressed at a nice, steady pace and everything worked out well. If a girl gives a guy the "green light" to continue approaching, he's likely to do so in a respectful manner -- yes, with flirting, banter, the whole 9. If a girl just sort of pounces on a guy, he doesn't know the boundaries and things get confused, at least one of them misinterprets the intentions of the other, etc.
Now if a guy has approached me a few times and I know him, I won't be shy about calling or emailing one or two times, depending on the context of the relationship. I'll be shy about asking for his information, though, because I was raised to believe that that's too forward. In fact, the times that I DID ask for a guy's email or number (even in a professional context), the guy interpreted it as a flirtatious move on my part and started coming on to me afterwards.1
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