Alright so me and this girl had started chatting back and forth on OkCupid, when I suggested we hang out sometime. She responded that she wanted get to know me a little better so she asked me for my Facebook and so we continue the song and dance for a good week now, but I just noticed the other day when I was going to call my one friend her number came up as one of my suggestions when dialing so then I checked her profile and she has her # was right there so I'm not sure if we are on enough level of familiarity to be talking via phone/text but I wanted to get some opinions on the matter. Though I might be over-analyzing it.
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So you want to see this girl in person soon, right?
I would gather up my courage and just text her. Let her know it's you. And if she is weirded out by it, respond with "now that you have my number, I trust you won't be calling/texting me 10 times a day"
For real - if she freaks out about your number appearing on her phone, calm her down. It's NOT A BIG DEAL. And if she asks how you got it, just be straight about it. Your smart phone automatically put her number in from her Facebook page.
This girl wants to get to know you better = take her out for a couple drinks some night. You can spend a good hour or two together. And I'm going to be personally honest here - Facebooking or texting back and forth, or doing OKCupid is a passive way to contact and get to know each other. Sure. But I think it SUCKS after 1-2 weeks of just talking. Being in PERSON is where it's at, because then you see each other face to face and you can see how well you both vibe. You exchange body language and see the real person.
You're afraid you're moving too fast? Aww f*ck it dude - we only have one life to live. And time is ticking away. My friend Bill met this girl at a party. They swapped numbers. 3 days later, they started a relationship. His girlfriend was wanted by other dudes at the party, but he didn't give a sh*t about them. He went for it and got her. That's what happens when you wait around too long and pick your butt, wondering what your next move will be.
So anyway, TEXT HER. Say you'd like to meet up soon, and make the plans.0