When I see a girl I like, I approach her, smile, talk to her, make her laugh - and then I ask them out for coffee or something and they never want to. Some might say Yes, but then when I follow up - they never want to.
What do I have to do to get a girlfriend? And what do people mean "when the time is right" ? Why does the time have to be RIGHT for me? Why can't it just happen?
And I have not had a girlfriend, but everyone around me has been in many relationships. If I absolutely CANNOT get a girl, how am I not supposed to feel like a useless, unwanted male?
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"When the time is right" usually refers to taking things as slowly as you can while still progressing in the relationship. When you meet these girls, try to take steps with her. Don't ask her out when you first meet her, but keep getting to know her for a while in a flirty manner (teasing, complimenting her, asking questions about her, etc.). Eventually when you do ask her out, just be confident and have a plan in the back of your mind for something more exciting than just coffee. Ask her if she'd go out with you but tell her the date is a surprise (although try not to say this in a creepy manner). Then plan something more unique than just a dinner and a movie date. The key to a long relationship is when both people put as much effort as they can to make the other happy and to feel special. Just make sure you continue to be happy.
I have no doubt in my mind that you won't start dating eventually. Sometimes it just takes time. And the right girl...girls can be pretty nasty and superficial.0
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