So somehow I get the feeling that leading someone on has become some sort of popular thing.
It's been happening to me and to some of my friends lately a lot.
You meet a girl everything is going great and she starts showing interest in you and then things start even better. But after some time in stead of some sort of relationship forming she skips out and starts acting all distant like she wasn't actually interested.
I can't stop thinking this is some kind of leading on.
Either the girls were never really interested in the guy they were leading on or they chicken out at the last moment when it starts getting serious witch is again leading on. And I don't understand it.
This has happed to me a couple of times and it's getting frustrating.
What is the purpose of this game?
Can anyone enlighten me.
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It's not only girls..but I have my little theory: you say 'these days' so you're assuming in the past this was not the case..so it got me wondering what has happened now then for example one or two generations ago: we're still in the middle of a social revolution if you ask me. Too much (wrong) info which goes through too many media channels too fast. Physical relationships are even virtualizing as well...etc etc.. I sometimes wonder if our brains have already adjusted fully for this (perhaps the toddlers of nowadays will :-) ) to cope with the impact..Perhaps to some degree of exaggeration, our 'self's are being spread thin, we're being hollowed out when it comes to pure human behavior based on emotions and feelings rather than by material consumption marketing and so-called facts. With a fast speed of life, emotions are donwgraded to sensations only. Sensations are superficial, "volatile"..So if people start to lose them"selves" in sensations only, you can't blame them for not taking the time and efforts for any deeper feelings, ie. taking relationships seriously, even for themselves..Relationships are being consumed the same way as everything else (porn anyone? :-) ). Boredom becomes king, so you're down to job-hoppers, relationship-hoppers, gadget-hoppers..In this thinking, you could even say that those who are leading on, don't really do it on purpose - they're just following a social trend..perhaps even doing it to others more now since they were the victim of it just the same.. I guess if we lose ourselves in superficialities, we'll become emotional vampires for deeper emotions..after all, we're still a social species..
So there, a little Saturday ten-minute theory .. But my point is: don't take it personal..so don't get too frustrated over it or you may miss that one serious girl you're looking for as well..4
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