I'm just looking for any ideas you guys can toss out there. Often what happens is I go out for coffee with a girl, we have a lively conversation with mutual joking, then part ways with a hug and agree to do something again soon. When I try to set up date #2, I end up getting the runaround. I'm typically reserved with my compliments and not incredibly flirty at the beginning (down the road though when we know each other a little better is a different story), but other than that, I'm at a loss.
I know it's not a huge amount to go on, but is there anything you've seen/experienced that can kill things in this way so quickly?
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This is a complex question with a complex answer.
The biggest hurdle both men and women have in the modern dating world is easy access. In the past if a date went OK we'd give someone another chance to take us out, but now the choices are seemingly endless so women (and men) feel like if things don't go almost perfect right away they have unlimited choices to keep picking from on the internet, at work, through friends, and through family. Our attention spans have dropped tremendously, so most people are always looking for the next best thing. What they fail to realize is nobody is perfect, including themselves, and people are so nervous on the first few dates that they cannot be seen for who they are. It takes time AND effort to get to know someone. The irony is nobody seems willing to put in the time. Sad, isn't it?5