i just left my boyfriend of a year. in the course of the relationship it was a down hill slope from day one but I thought that I would take the chance anyway! he was a drug addict. he was abusive. he caused a lot of emotional hardship. I am now in the process of "starting over" i.e. getting finances back in order, self healing, etc. Its been over two months since I have left him and I don't know if the feelings that I have are really me ready to date or just the loneliness starting to take effect. I don't miss him, I don't want him back, I don't want anything to do with him, but I do miss having the companionship of a man in all the sense of the of the word (emotionally, physically... etc.) what would be a good time to start dating again after such a traumatic experience?
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It took me a year to really heal from a bad breakup. I cannot say he was abusive but he was emotionally distant and I was really attached to him and I was a hot mess after our breakup.
So, I would caution that if you start dating and you find yourself not staying true to yourself during the process, you should stop and wait it out a little longer. For me, I gave FWB a chance and that was not true to myself. I thought I was fine and I wasn't. My self-esteem had taken a big hit and casual sex did not fix it, it made it worse. Just take care to avoid the casual sex foolishness that is so promoted these days and also to really make sure you don't end up with another abuser. If you cannot stand up for yourself yet, you should not date.1