I like to people watch and read into people. And I have found that I have meet a 5 girls from 5 different social groups. And they all seem to have one thing in common. They want to have sex before going on a date with the guy they like. You know they want to be f-buddies before they go out. I watch the guy sit there and play with the girls emotions just so he can get a lay out if it. And not want anything more. I asked the one girl why she did that and if she had emotional feelings about this and she said she was fine with it. So is this the social norm?
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Okay well I have to admit that I have been known to just want fb's and leave it at that with them. Every female is different but I guess I chose to do so because I couldn't find a guy that I felt like was boyfriend material but was good enough to have a sexual relationship with. I just wanted sex and be able to get it when I wanted it. Of course there were ground rules established i.e. no sex with anyone else and if one of us does then we must tell each other (mainly because we knew we were clean so we didn't use a condom with each other) out of respect for each others health. I had one of the best fb's someone could ever have for about a year. We were friends but we also had the benefits. We talked/texted daily but it was just 2 friends having sex without feelings. We're still friends to this day and he's even engaged! I'm pretty sure the fiance doesn't know about our past but I could care less because we don't hang out we just text here and there. I guess you just have to get into a mindset with things if you're going to have this type of relationship. I've sense grown out of that stage and have been abstaining for about 15 months now because I want sex to mean more to me from now on. I'll admit I've been tempted to fall back into my old habits but I try to stay positive and say that my prince charming will show up sooner than later :-)
Oh but he and I never went on a "date", we hung out alone at his place or with our mutual friends but that was it. I even spent the night with him a few times but we never cuddled or anything.0