I met a guy on a chatroom about 3 weeks ago. He was my age and only lived 6 hours away from me. We haven't ever met yet but we text all the time. One day I asked him for a pic of himself so he sent me 3 of him. He looked really cute in them. Now just 5 minutes ago, he told me it wasn't him in the pictures. He told me this really sad story and even had me look up the article in the news paper so that I knew it was true. It was about him and he had cancer when he was 2 up to age 11. From all of the treatment he had, it caused him to gain a lot of weight. Now he just showed my his myspace and the pics of him. I'm really not trying to be rude about it but I am not attracted to him at all! I want to break up with him but I would feel way to bad to because all that he went through. I don't know what to do or how to do it. I'm so confused! He seemed like the cutest nicest best guy ever but now when I think of him all I can think of is this chubby kid. I FEEL SO BAD! how do you break up with a guy who has had such a hard life?
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Send a really ugly picture, and say it's you.
Or tell him you've been lying to him, you are actually a dude.
You've only known him for 3 weeks. Just tell him you are not ready to be in any relationship. tell him you would still like to meet up, as a friend. And that you don't want him to expect anything more. Don't mention the pictures, or the hard life he had. Just tell him he is a sweet guy, and you would love to be one of his friends. It might hurt him alittle, but it's better than suddenly disappearing. You two aren't really a couple yet, so it shouldnt be like "breaking up". Just make it clear to him that you are not ready for a relationship. If he doesn't want to be friends, then his loss. and move on.