I've been on Plenty of Fish for quite some time. I tried online dating once a couple years ago but then I stopped after a bad experience. Now I'm trying it again. It seems like I'm not having much luck, maybe because I'm not trying hard enough. My profile is worded out pretty well. I suppose I could try to take better pictures of me. But I have a few questions to those who've had success and why you were successful in actually setting up a date? (because I can't even seem to make it that far).
What did you say in your first message and how was it worded?
Did you point out certain highlights from the other person's profile to include in your message?
What sort of user descriptions in the profile are likely to chase people away? What draws them in.
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Well, yes & no. I had been on POF for a year & got lots of interest, and several dates. I even had a serious relationship. I find that most of those people just email back & forth and never want to meet you, or they just want to meet you for sex.
For you profile, keep it simple, don't put too much in it. Just a few things you like to do, most people say what kind of music they like, if that's important to you, throw it in. I would say what you are looking for, long term, just looking, life long companion, whatever. Then talk about a first date or meeting, what you would do. That's nice.
If you message someone, say things like, what you liked about her profile, what attracted you to them at first. If they had a nice smile or eyes, tell them that. And mention something(s) that they said in their profile that you liked. Then tell them that you hope to hear from them soon. Only talk back and forth a few times then ask her out for drinks or coffee. Or bump it up to calling her at home. Just don't let it go on more than a few times or they will lose interest in you.
Hope this helps. Good luck.2