I feel really stupid right now.i have been played
so I meet this guy at an on-line dating website. He started talking to me, very sweet and cute, telling me lovely stuff and we had loads in common. Views in life and stuff.
Start talking a bit on msn, added each other on facebook. And we was very keen on a date.
We was coming to my town so we arranged a date, after this he had to cancel saying he couldn't come to my town any more but really wanted to meet me and asked me to meet him instead.
Went to his town and had the most amazing time with him. He flirted a bit with me sometimes and eventually asked me if he could kiss me. After a few hours he kind of had a make out session together ( I was really falling for this guy) and yes I know it was going too fast but it felt right and good.
Unfortunately I lost my train back home, we run to the buses but missed all of them as well. Had to wait until 4 in the morning for next one (Sunday transport is a nightmare) so he asked me if a wanted to stay at his house ( I didn't really had another option, and we were getting on so well). There was only heating in his bedroom so I had to go there. He offered me something to wear so I took his shorts and stayed in my top, ready to sleep on top of the bed, away from him. when I got back to the bedroom and was going to the bed, he moved to the other side,saying we was warming it up for me (I thought this was extremely sweet and it melted my hearth a bit more). In bed he cuddle me and after 15m he turned my head for a kiss, and we make out again, and things got a bit carried away. Again I don't regret it, and it felt right ( he was my second partner, I do not sleep around)we was soo sweet after ,cuddling with me, slept all night getting very close to me,touching or occasional kiss, very caring and very sweet touch. Made breakfast together next morning, and told me he usually doesn't do these kinds of stuff, it's been a long time and bla bla.
After I got home I had a text from him saying he had a lovely time with me, I was very sweet and stuff and in a way he did wish I missed my train. Been talking and told me he was coming to meet me now and stuff.
Lately he's talking less and less. Told me he was going to be without internet for 3 days. But I can see him on-line on the dating site... ignores me for 2 days, then sends me a text that looks like he's very interested in me,but hen ignores me again...we said to each other that communication is very important for a relationship. Any kind of relationship but now he acts like this. he made me believe in love again. that he was the perfect one, even introduced me to some of his friends
Yeah I just realized I have been played. Should I do something about this?
Why men act like this? I have been very hurt by me previous boyfriend and was finally getting the courage to start dating , this all sets me back again.
can you just come ou and say,sorry I don't find you interesting anymore?
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I was reading your question and saying to myself, "NO! Not the bedroom! Ahhhh! Don't do it!"
But you did and now here you are. It sucks, but I think you should just see this as a valuable lesson learned. We all mistaken the ugly frog for Prince Charming once in a while. It isn't anything to beat yourself up about - but it should make you more perceptive to what led you into a situation to be played.
He told you what you wanted to hear, he behaved how you wanted him to behave, and he got what he wanted. I honestly think he would have played you whether or not you slept with him. If you would have strung it out longer before giving up the prize, he would have eventually stopped communicating with you. Whatever his problem is, is his. He's an ass, a jerk, a player.
You're problem is seeing what you really want instead of what really is in front of you. You want to fall in love, you want to meet Mr. Right, you're looking for your Prince Charming. You want it so bad, you're forgetting the first rule of finding love - Make Him Wait.
If he wants you despite turning him down - then he wants you. I can almost guarantee that if you would have turned away from his kisses that night, the end result would have been the same. He would have distanced himself from you, because it wasn't really you that he wanted, just what you could physically offer him.
Next time, just take your time. Resist the temptation to make your life into a fairy tale. Be realistic and cautious. My rule of thumb - if it seems too good to be true, it's too good to be true.