It makes me feel so awkward when I have to tell them I'd rather take it slow. I'm 17 and a virgin so I feel they should understand, is it really that disssapointing if I only want to kiss the first time we "hookup?" if they really liked me they'd have no problem waiting right?
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If they like you enough they might be willing to wait, but that doesn't mean they have no problem waiting. People, men in particular, enjoy sex. When they're attracted to someone and that person seems to be attracted to them it can be disappointing when they fall short of your expectations, when they put limits on the relationship. Sometimes the burgeoning interest isn't enough to keep that attraction alive given the availability of other attractive and interesting women.
That doesn't mean you have to change who you are or who you want, just that you should understand that not everyone shares your view of how a relationship should progress. Many people hate being told they can look, but they can't touch. Given the nature of men you're more likely to find this type in a church somewhere, but even they are so desperate to have sex with you they'll marry you at the first opportunity. xD
Put simply, sex feels good. People want sex. It's only natural that people would want to have sex with someone they're attracted to, it's just a fact of life. The choices is yours, however. If you don't want to have sex, or if you don't want to do it right now... just tell them as much. Keep telling them you want to take it slow, and go at your own pace. If they don't like it they can and will find someone a bit more their speed. This doesn't make them or you a lesser human. Other things might, but not this.1