If you had a girlfriend that you knew she was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, but for some reason you were not meant to be together (either because you two are too far away because of each others jobs, or because her parents don't want the relationship) and both of you go separate ways.
then, you move on, find yourself another girl. Get married, have kids.
and one day your first girlfriend show up on your doorstep and she is finally free of whatever was holding her back.
who would you choose?
-your first girlfriend (and your biggest love)
-or your wife (with whom you have a family)
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I personally don't think you should get married, if you are still pining after someone else.
That is not a good way to start a marriage. You need to get the other person out of your system before you move on and take such a huge step. People should get married at least with the intention of it being forever.
I would also feel pain for the wife in this situation. What a terrible thing to happen to someone. Soul destroying, tearing a family apart. How could she ever trust her husband again, trust him to love her, even if he does end up choosing her. There really shouldn't be a question in his mind in the first place.
The honorable thing for the man to do, would be to choose his wife, if she is still willing to have him after finding out.
If I was the other girl in this situation and I knew he had a family, I would stay far way. I don't want to be a home-wrecker. I would assume he was happy and move on, find another person, that could make me happy. I don't believe there is just one single soul mate out there for all of us.0