Do people say this to make others feel better or is it a true belief?
I am not whining at all. It's just that each day I look around and see my friends and acquittance get engaged and married whilst I'm still being single. I was in a hurtful relationship that ended a year ago. I haven't found a lover yet even though I really want to.
Sometimes I believe I won't ever find him. Why are people so sure everybody will find a match? What do you think?
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I don't know the reason why you are alone, so I will be taking it from a number of common angle.
You are not a very social girls and don't like to spend too much time away from home and with friends, especially new friends: In this case, you are not even trying. You are expecting your name to walk into your life proclaiming to be your soul mate. You can't expect God, if he exist, to do all the work. He gave you free will for a reason. Put some effort into finding a guy, as your friend's boyfriend to set you up with somebody. Guys tend to hang around other guy with similar personality, so ask a girl friend who have a boyfriend that you like. There are a ton of other solution, online dating is pretty common nowadays.
You are very picky: Some people are picky because they have reasonable standard. Intelligent, reliability, and humor are all commendable quality, but if you keep telling yourself that he is not good enough for you. You might be snobby. Don't judge a guy so fast, granted some guy don't take very long to judge.
You have a horrible personality or you are unattractive: Can't buy a Ferrari with just a few thousands. You will have to settle for something less. If it is your personality, you will have to find a guy that can put up with you.
I have a girl friend that is incredibly cute. The only problem is that she always must be in control of the relationship and it drive all her boyfriend crazy.
If I were you, I would create a plan. Write down what you like in a guy. All the quality that you want and then come up with at least 5 ways in which you can meet new guys. Friends introduction, sport club, etc.
Go out there and find your guy, don't sit back and expect him to come knocking.2
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