1) I usually do expect the guy to pay, and if he doesn't I do get a little bit put off. I don't expect him to be buying me like five star dinners or anything, I mean like ten dollar movies and cheeseburgers haha.
2) For the guy to have a car, or at least his N. Just because I'm seventeen and most of the guys I'm interested in are 18 or 19, so I guess I do expect them to have a car by now. I feel like it's the one thing a guy needs to accomplish as a teenager.
3) For him to invite me to at least half of the things he goes to, like parties etc. I've just noticed this one because I tend to date guys from different schools, so we don't typically get invites to the same events.
4) To not try to hook up with me or even mention sex within the first three times we hangout because it just makes me think they just wanna get laid and I'll write them off immediately.
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1. You should offer to split the tab after the first couple of times he asks you out. Boys aren't ATM's, they have to earn their money, just like you do. Expecting him to pay every time is thinking that you are to be "bought". Do you really want a man to pay for your company? He isn't buying time with you, is he?
2. It is perfectly reasonable to expect, but a lot of them don't due to it being hard to find a job as a young person these days. Not every guy that doesn't have a car has done so because he doesn't want one. If you can hang out locally, I'm not sure if that's a huge problem. Do you have a car to split the driving?
3. Perfectly reasonable expectation here. People that like each other should spend time together, including at each others' events.
4. A very good idea. Any guy that you're going to want to see in the long-term will know how to get to know you better as a person not just try to get you to drop your panties. Stand your ground on this, you won't regret it, as you filter out the good guys from the bad this way.2