Which do you prefer more and why?
I think I prefer going to my friends place more then them coming to mine. I'm not sure why.
- Going over to friends houseVote A
- My friends coming over to my houseVote B
- Don't have a preference. either or is fine.Vote C
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I feel more comfortable at friends' houses. Growing up, my mom rarely approved of me having people over, I guess because she was embarrassed. After a certain age, she was a single mom and worked all the time to make ends meet and didn't always have the time or energy for keeping up on housework to her 'visitation standards', let alone feel like playing host to my friends or their parents. I understand, but it put a damper on things as far as ME feeling comfortable having people hanging out in my space, because I got so used to it being mine alone. On the rare occasions that I did have friends over, like in my teen years, I always got so worried about them touching my things, going through things, messing something up, etc. It gives me anxiety, haha. So I spent a LOT of time at their houses, rather than have them over at mine and trying to convince my mom to let me in the first place. I live with my boyfriend now, and we have friends over almost all the time, even when we're both at work. It doesn't bother me as much in this situation because there are common areas and other bedrooms for them to hang out in, with no parents to behave around or worry about getting upset and transferring their anxiety to me, lol. We have our bedroom and they stay out of it unless we invite them in or ask them to grab something for us. So I still have that comforting sense of 'this is MY space where I don't have to worry about other people'.1