guys. I'm not expereinced which is why I have picked the wrong guys. I was seeing a guy recently but its all ended because he realized he wants a casual thing not a relationship, he says this after I refuse to suck him off. I mean what the hell I seen him two times and he expected way too much. We wanted different things so we no longer talk at all. We had an argument in the end. An I told him exactly what he is. I know not all guys may be like this, but I'm yet to be proven wrong. I feel like any guy that shows me attention, may not have good intentions. I don't feel positive about meeting a guy in the future. I feel put off by guys :/ sadly, I don't feel like I'm ever going to settle down. I don't know what I'm looking for anymore. I don't have a type or particular preference. Will I ever stop feeling like this. How can I remain positive?
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All I can do is tell you that this happens to just about everybody at one point or another. Seriously, the dating game sucks. It doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl, if you're looking for a relationship you will always run the risk of getting burned by someone who's just looking for sex, or some detestable person who is just gonna lie to get what they want, or use you somehow. These people are always gonna be out there.
Whenever I tell someone this, they usually respond by asking how one could tell if they're sincere or just using you. How you can tell what they really want. As always the answer to this is; "You can't. Ever." If there were sure, and telltale signs that prove a person to be true, then users would just exploit them and use them.
What you need to do though is just try to make whatever human connection you can. Not by having sex, but just by trying to have some kind of good time, and do whatever you do, just for yourself. Don't go looking for some significant other, just because you think you need one, but rather because you think this person is a good fit, but let it happen when it happens. You will find someone sooner or later.
Sure, there are some bastard guys out there. Sure there are some horrible women out there. Sure, people suck in general. Thing is; people can surprise you. Don't give up hope. The right person for you will come along. Don't go searching for this person, let them come into your life however it happens, and when this person shows up, you can decide what you want to do.
I know it can be heartbreaking when you get a bunch of lousy dates, horny retards, cunts and/or douchebags, and it seems like they're all the same, but there are good people out there. Don't give up hope. Just prepare yourself for the worst, hope for the best, and until your next date with the next lucky person who has half a chance, just live your life, and have fun.
Good luck out there.
(BTW: also remember that whoever you're with now/next, that person isn't the previous person who disappointed you. Remember that.)2