I did this two weeks ago for a girl after I saw I was getting friend zoned and I told her by text that ye I would be fine with it. The truth is I wasn't... so I dropped this letter off as a goodbye, "I don't think I can be just friends with you because I like you too much", at her house and left the book as I was telling her about it in one of our dates and the drawing of the rose cause I thought it would be a sweet goodbye gift. It got her attention, she expecially loved the drawing, and apparently I am a good drawer, so I asked her out Wednesday, she accepted the date. I am planning to meet her on Tuesday. I am just worried I am forcing her and that she really doesn't like me.
I have been on a coffee date with her already about 3 weeks ago but it was very short because the coffee shop closed so I walked her home. The second date was a house party I invited her to, I think it didn't go that well. I think I might have pushed her away because I socialized a lot and I was constantly talking to people and including teasing and joking with other girls. The thing is it was a house party and I knew a lot of people and I didn't want to ignore people there and also she brought her friend and they seemed to be having fun dancing with each other. She didn't really dance with me but maybe I should have tried harder to dance with her.
Anyway it was a fun night but not a romantic one if you get me. I just couldn't do it that easily when I am surronded by friends and her friend. A couple days later I asked her out a couple times more and she kept leaving me hanging and stuff like this, so I read this as she is not really into me because she is not reciprocating, so I told her you seem to just want to be friends so I am fine with that, and she replied right away saying ye lets just be friends (like she was really thinking this all along). Anyway a couple days after that is when I dropped of the gift as a last goodbye.
Anyway I am being messed up, I feel I want her too much, and that is why I decided to push the date a week later and why I don't want to text her to much. If feel I am swinging for the fence with her, she intimidates me like no other girl has before and I have dated 6ft tall polish blondes. She just seems so much more put together, smart, and absolutely stunning. This makes me nervous cause I feel I am under so much pressure to put my best foot forward it actually makes me perform more poorly and act more nervous.
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You can't force someone into doing something. It's the person's choice, not yours. I know it's a harsh way to start but I'm just clearing up what you said about having to pressure her into going out with you. I can be honest on that one because I made the mistake of thinking the same thing. This guy liked me & my friend noticed & told him to ask me out. At the time, I felt like he was just being pressured into it, but I realized that if he didn't want to, he wouldn't have done it. Same thing I'm saying for this girl. Maybe the only reason why she wasn't reciprocating was because you left her all alone at that party. Sure, you knew a lot of people there, but she didn't. The only person she knew was her friend & you. I can honestly say it kind of looks like you're chasing her though. But that's fine because most girls don't like to be the one's who do anything & let the guy do all the work. I'm not saying she's that type of girl but who knows? Maybe she is. Anyway, there's no reason to be scared about what you're doing. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. There are other people.1