I've read a couple of relationship advice books latley and basically they all say the same. Some of the stuff is obvious like
- workout, be pretty
- don't sleep with him too early
- don't nag or criticize him too often
But other stuff I was kinda surprised about like
- never talk to him first
- don't call him first
- never go dutch on a date
- date several men at once and don't go on a date if he asks you out last minute
- let him chose the location of the date and let him pick you up
Or when you are in a relationship and live together
- let him do the fixing around the house
- let him lift heavy things
Do those things really make for better long term relationships? A lot of this seems old fashioned. But it's odd that those books all tell the same, there has to be some truth in it?
I also reas one book that was addressed to guys and I though it gave horrible advice, so I was wondering what you guys think about those "rules"
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This is my view:
- workout, be pretty - Correct
- don't sleep with him too early - Correct
- don't nag or criticize him too often - Correct
- never talk to him first - Incorrect
- don't call him first - Incorrect
- never go dutch on a date - Doesn't matter really
- date several men at once - Totally incorrect
- don't go on a date if he asks you out last minute - Kinda correct, but what means "last minute"? Of course if he ignored you for days you better reject him, unless he had a good reason/was busy, or something like that.
- let him chose the location of the date and let him pick you up - Correct
- let him do the fixing around the house - Correct, unless you purposefully mess up stuff
- let him lift heavy things - Correct, unless you're indecisive "where that sofa would better fit?"
You see, when it comes to Dating/Relatioships/Sex whatsoever, there is a LOT and I mean really a lot of bullsh*t around.
And the only purpose of it is to confuse people. To make simple things appear complex.
That's how people sell books/discs/products promising them to "improve their dating abilities" and so on.. those people sometimes purposefully spread misinformation, to make you think you "had it all wrong" .. to make you think that you "need" something to "help" you.. that's all business, it's all about making money...
Of course no book or set of "rules" will ever help you, because nothing can replace common sense.