Please tell me if I am doing anything wrong.
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship that lasted way too long. It was the back and forth sort of thing that just perpetuated any chance of moving forward. When the break was complete, I decided to take a break from dating as to not hurt anyone in the event that I was on the rebound. I have a male best friend. We dated 5 years ago for 2 weeks in college; nothing major, nothing serious. He has held a torch for me ever since. Mind you, he constantly reminds me that he is "over me" or "working past it" and "not sure he was ever IN love with me." I asked him a million times if he was going to be cool with it when I finally started to date; he said yes, absolutely. One night out with my girlfriend, a guy friend of hers met up with us. It was instant attraction. We've been inseperable ever since. I came to find out he is a manager at my best friend's place of employment. My best friend told me he will not be comfortable seeing my new beau everyday at work. I told him that I had been miserable for so long after the break up with my ex...I told him I have been in therapy for over a year after what my ex put me through...I told my friend I was finally ready to open myself up to someone again. His response? That we can no longer be friends. I spent last night crying my eyes out. I don't have much family, and my best friend has been a huge part of my life. But I'm going to be 26 this year and would like to find someone to build a stable relationship with. I can only assume that ANYONE I date would strike a nerve with my friend. Am I to blame? I did nothing to be intentionally malicious.
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Your guy friend doesn't sound like a very good friend.
You've been through hell and back. You found a little happiness in life with a new man. You tell your friend all this good news.
But how does your "friend" respond? With happiness for you? With congratulations that you've turned a corner?
No, he gives you selfishness and breaks off the friendship.
He's proved what kind of friend he is. Forget him. Think back on what you've learned from your therapy sessions, and figure out if you missed any cues or overlooked any hints about what your "friend" really wanted.
Be happy you've found a promising new relationship.