So, basically...I'm 21 and living at home...my parents are very very lenient and don't ask me where I'm going...baby me or anything...i have my own room and we all get along just fine. I worked full time and lived with my roommate...but my roommate had to split earlier this year and we left in September. I was ready to move into a friends house and pay rent (I couldn't find any one bedroom apartments I could afford)...but my parents told me I was welcome to come home if I wanted to. I hadn't been in school since I was 19 and I wasn't happy with the dead end job I had..so I decided id work for the next 8 months and go back in the fall..since I could work only part time and have time for school. But being a 21 year old guy whos never had a gf...I worry no girl will want be with a guy and will view him as a baby. I feel so frustrated...I worked but knew I need something more than what I was doing...and I was on my own...but to pursue extra schooling..I need to live at home...but I'm extremely lonely and want a gf...
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I don't think it should matter. My boyfriend still lives at home and he is almost 23. He helps his family out a lot and does what he can. He is independent in every other way, he has a car and a full-time job. And when his job slows down, he finds other work to do.
The important thing is that you have goals for your life. No one wants to be with someone who just doesn't care about their life. It's unattractive because the person basically has no motivation. You obviously have motivation, you are both working and going to school.
It's impossible for one person to have everything. And it's unrealistic for a girl to expect you to work, go to school, have your own house and still have time and money to do other things. Times are tough and when you are in school it's also expensive.
I'm in the same position you are in. Although during school I lived on my own and didn't work. But I had the means to do that, and I had to. I couldn't afford a car and gas to get to school everyday. Living away from home was cheaper.
But I am now facing the prospects of having to come back home. I have no job, and am graduating soon. I am actively looking for work, but I am in that period of limbo. I want desperately to get my life started, and I have worked hard in school. It's just taking time. In the meantime I am moving back home. Yes it's hard not to feel like a loser, but I don't know who can really blame you for doing what you are doing. It's tough out there and if you can live somewhere for free, why not?
It's hard for me to feel proud with living at home, but it's what I have to do to make it all work. Anyone who doesn't understand is not in your position so they can't really be a good judge of what you are doing. Sounds to me like you are doing your best to survive in this economy and still get some of your ambitions started :)
You will find a gf! Don't worry!1