Like the whole chasing thing and who should text and call who? Or act disinterested when you really are interested in them? Call me stupid but what happened to just being yourself, being honest, and coming out and saying what you really mean? Do people not have balls anymore? Its like a contest or competition. It makes me sick.
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I feel your pain; it frustrates me sometimes as well. But the reality is that dating has always been a game. Men and women are different; they think differently and they operate differently, so by the time you hear somebody say, "I don't want to play games," you'll know the game playing has already begun.
To address the items you wrote: If you act like you're not interested in a guy, he probably won't ask you out. Guys aren't mind-readers; they're more likely to ask you out if they sense a reasonably high level of interest from you. Usually the guy is expected to call the girl, but if you want to call him, there's no rule against that. I would keep texting to a minimum; I've always found texting to be problematic, especially in the early stages of dating.
What helps me the most is the phrase, "Actions speak louder than words." People have learned over the years that being TOO candid can sometimes cause a confrontation, so they tend to sugarcoat their words. But you can't sugarcoat actions. If a guy asks you out (even if he takes a little longer than you might prefer), he's interested. If a guy cancels a date on you or gives you one of a million excuses for why he can't see you, he's not interested. Try not to make the mistake of taking what people SAY too seriously. Rather, look very closely at what they DO.0