There's a girl I see every week at swing dancing, and I've been giving her and her female friend rides to another university on Mondays for more dancing. We've spent a fair amount of time together dancing, but always in a group. The other day (Thursday) I asked her if I could "buy [her] dinner" before salsa dancing that night. She said no, but suggested Sunday evening before swing instead. That evening she showed up a salsa with a guy who I didn't know but turns out to go to the same university as me. They didn't do anything or act in a way that made me think they were a couple, but the timing made me think maybe she was trying to discourage my advances. We danced a few times that night as we normally would. On the way out that night she said "see you Sunday" and might have winked. I'm afraid she might bring her female friend on Sunday and try to make our dinner a non-date. I specifically tried to be clear and make sure she understood it was a date when I asked her. I'm not afraid of rejection, I just want a yes or no answer so I don't waste time chasing something I can't have. Because I only asked her Thursday morning, she might have already had plans to hang out with that guy that Thursday night. So I have two questions:
Do you think she intentionally brought that guy in order to make me back off without having to plainly tell me?
How can I prevent her from bringing her female friend to dinner on Sunday before swing?
I'm leaning towards just straight up asking her, but I don't want to come across as insecure because I saw her with another guy. I also don't want to be a jerk to her friend because I'm friends with her as well, I just don't have a thing for her because she's already taken.
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Whilst I can totally understand your concerns, I think you might be looking into things too much. I think that if she didn't want to go on a date with you she would have said "no" and not suggested another time.
Wait until Sunday and see how it goes. I sincerely doubt she will bring anyone along. I can understand why you're confused but I don't think there is a problem. Don't ask, it might make her think you're a little paranoid and frighten her away.1