Ok so I work with this guy, at first I didn't think much of him, we exchanged numbers one night after work because he followed me home because I was drunk and scared to get pulled over.
Anyways, he texted me when he got home that night, and the next day, I ignored his text the next day and never wrote back. He texted me again the day after, still I ignored it. Not because I was being a bitch, but I really wasn't interested in him.
So we didn't work together again for 2 weeks, and he texted me the day of that we were scheduled to work to remind me to dress up for work. I replied and said I'd see him at work. So I got completely sh*t faced at work that night, I'm talking black out drunk, he left work and texted me and said I could come over if I wanted to, I texted him and told him to come back up and hang out for a bit, he did.
Anyways we chilled for a bit at work and then we left, and we ended up back at his house, apparently we had sex, but I was so drunk I have no idea what I even did, if I acted weird or did something crazy...I ended up sleeping there til the morning and he drove me back to my car and I went home.
So that was Sunday night and it got to be Wednesday and he didn't text me, so I texted him and thanked him for not letting me drive home, he instantly replied and called me dollface and said it was "no problem" we shooted the sh*t for a minute and I ended the convo first with him being the last person that replied.
I haven't heard from him since and that was yesterday, so my question is, did I ruin a possible relationship by sleeping with him? Is he not interested in me anymore?
I mean we never talked everyday, so maybe I'm just being paranoid because we had sex...Can anyone give me any advice on what to do now, because I really like him, and I don't want him to think otherwise.
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I don't believe you ruined your chances at being with him, just because you slept with him. If he liked you before, then he will still like you now. If he didn't want anything from you except sex, then your sleeping with him wouldn't effect the chances of getting into a relationship anyway. I thought you weren't interested in him, and only slept with him because you were drunk. When did you realize that you liked him?
Anyway I think you might have been giving him some mixed signals, about not responding to his texts for a while, and then sleeping with him. Then not contacting him until Wednesday. He might not know if he should contact you. He might even be worried you might be mad at him, if he thinks you believe that he took advantage of you, due to how drunk you were.
If you like him, then talk to him, and see if he is interested in seeing you again. Maybe the two of you can go out and start dating. As it is now, I don't think either one of you have any idea what the other one wants. You have to start communicating with each other, and figure out where to go from here.2
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