I'm so sad. I have been dating this guy for almost 6 months that I met online. I liked him a lot so I took down my profile and want sering anyone else. When it got close to 4 months I brought up being exclusive but his response wasn't enthusiastic so I told him I was moving on and date other guys. We still have been seeing each other but he still wouldn't say that he wanted to be together. I have been going out with a couple of other guys. So he found out that I went out with another guy this weekend so then he says how he hasn't been dating anyone else but me the last six months (talking to girls on a dating website is different apparently) and that now he is going to date other girls. I explained to him that I don't want to date other guys but I felt like I had to because he didn't want to be exclusive so I figured that he was dating other guys. That if we were exclusive then I wouldn't. So I asked him what is it going to be and he told me to date other guys;( I don't know what I did wrong.
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This is a great example of a mind field.
But you haven't broken any pact between you two
because you made none as it was stated that
you were not going exclusive.
But I think you made a tiny error by telling him
that you felt like you had to date other guys even
though you didn't feel like it. This could lead to the
other party misunderstanding and overreacting
in his mind that he is very replaceable. Anything but that
you did nothing wrong, he was the one in fact to
reject clarity in the relationship as to exclusivity.
Any way in every problem weighing who committed
more fault is not really the answer for solving it.
You should talk to him and settle things out. Miscommunication
with long periods of time brings additional misunderstanding.