My boyfriend is what you would call cheap. I realize that guys fear gold diggers, and I am not a gold digger. But I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half now, and the only present I have gotten from my boyfriend has been the Christmas present he got me last year. And I had to pretty much make a big deal and tell him I was getting him a Christmas present and give him his present before he would even think of getting me anything.
I know this is sensitive territory for many guys. But I treat my boyfriend to movies and dinners all the time. And I work my butt off cooking for him all the time. He never cooks for me and rarely takes me out. And I was a student, so any time we enet out it came out of my grocery budget. So a lot of times I went without so that we could go out.
The other day I told my boyfriend it would be nice for him to make me pancakes. I really would like him to do something special for me once, because I always cook for him. And he has never made me breakfast and I surprise him in bed with breakfast on a regular basis.
He told me that "The mix is in the bag, all you have to do is add water and eggs". Umm thanks, is all I could think. Like I make him food all the time and he won't even repay the favour :(
He has never gotten me flowers, or even held a door open for me :( Or made me food!
Basically what I am saying is, I feel like I am carrying my weight in the relationship and then some. Why can't he start doing some more romantic things and start to appreciate me more?
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Hey! Your man sounds like one of my friends! Nice guy but a bit on the lazy and unappreciative side and takes the relationship for granted. You're doing everything for him and but he's not doing anything for you! It takes two to tango! Guys like these selfish and aren't relationship material. It took his Girlfriend 8 years to SLOWLY change him and make him learn to be more appreciative. IMO, that took much time and effort and now they're stuck with each other.
I know you said you've been in a relationship with him for 1.5 years but ask yourself this: is this what you really want in a boyfriend? Do you want to carry all the weight in the relationship? Is he capable of changing for the better? Be honest with him and let him know that you feel or you WILL leave him. He needs a reality check and if he doesn't realize it or change for the better, then leave him because someone else out there will appreciate all the things you do.1