Seriously, there's really only been one girl in my life who I thought was interesting, cool, funny, and awesome. She turned me down when I asked her out, but then I ended up becoming friends with her because I just thought she was so cool.
But that's it. Most of the girls I've run into and are initially interested in at first end up just being boring and then after a while I wonder why I'm still talking to her since she's offering virtually nothing at the other end, giving me no reason to talk to her or continue being friends with her.
It's like they expect me to entertain them while providing little themselves.
So after that I've started to make sure a girl is somewhat interesting before I talk to her more, but I've always been disappointed.
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well there's most likely something on your end that's an issue - as though you need someone whos constantly "on." you generally get used to people after a while. if you want to be constantly surprised or stimulated you may have a challenge, depending on what you like. you may also just be the type who isn't satisfied with one girl. I have a few friends who go from girl to girl and there's usually nothing wrong with the girl, its their own psychology - "they get bored easily" which is really just scratching the surface. my opinion is they aren't as interested in knowing a woman in depth as they are in being entertained constantly by novelty. kids are very similar to this. you have to keep them wrapped up in "oos" and "ahs" for them to pay attention. when you take a minute to just chill, they wander off to the next exciting thing. I chalk it up to an issue of lack of emotional maturity.
you aren't trying to date men, and therefore may be looking for this more in women than men.
i think a lot of men are boring. I think in this society we are just socialized differently and many buy into the idea that we are extremely different and even should like different things. we are socialized to interact differently and when you slap on top of that the pressures that come with dating, how you want them to see you, how you're taught that you should do this and shouldn't do that, etc. it can be really stifling to expressing how you feel, how you think, and who you are. some women are more expressive and interact differently with friends than with the guys they date. men are the same way.0