I love my girlfriend to death and I don't know what I would do without her, but I always feel like I am not good good enough for her or not good for her. She's smart and outgoing and her friends admire her. Her friends are ridiculously smart and out going and damn near perfect like her. I'm no where near as smart or friendly as any of these guys, especially not my girlfriend. I'm not cultured like them and when me and my friends get together we act like we don't know how to act on purpose. I feel like I'm only a bad influence on her and that no matter what I do I can never be better than any of the other options of guys she knows (especially her best friend who has damn near the same personality as me). And even though she hasn't said anything, I f***ed up on her birthday and got her a sh*t gift while her friends (no surprise) got her amazing presents. I feel like total sh*t and don't know what to do =(
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So? Who cares about everyone else. My mom always says that the most important component in a relationship is being happy with the person you are with and enjoying your company together...regardless of looks, smarts, money,...or whatever. So if you make your girlfriend happy and if she enjoys being with you...that is all that matters. Just because you think you are not good enough doesn't mean she feels the same way. Why would she be with you if she thought you were less than wonderful? Stop beating yourself up...you probably mean the world to her. Be careful...if you keep on comparing yourself to her guy friends...that might be what drives her away. Just be happy...and work on liking yourself instead of others liking you. And work on being the best you not the best someone else. Be yourself...and enjoy you and enjoy her..and realize that there is something amazing about you that no other guy has and this is why your girlfriend is with you and not some other guy. Another option too is maybe talking to her about how you feel...see what happens...she might reassure you how awesome you are. And when you say sh*t gift? what do you mean? you went out of your way to give her a sh*t gift? or it was at the last minute? or you thought your gift was wonderful but then you compared it to the other people and changed your mind?
Oh and relationships are not about constantly comparing yourself to the other person...there is a difference between jealousy and admiration towards your significant other. Stop this jealousy or else it might be the death of the relationship. And also stop being jealous of her friends...I doubt that would make her feel good. Just be you and accept yourself. Hope I helped. :)0