I'm seeing this girl and she's great and all.
But she's really, really outgoing and associates with a lot of guys. Consequently she's dealt with a lot of creeps so she has trust issues and it showed at first.
The last thing I want to do is be overbearing and keep her from enjoying herself. So when we're together I'm casual to the point where it's like I'm not even close to calling her my girlfriend. I don't say anything that would suggest commitment. Its been nearly a month now. So far she isn't creeped out but I feel like I'm being way too soft.
If you were in her shoes, what would you think of this?
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I'm in her shoes. Trust me.
But it's been way longer than a month.
And honestly - I'm at my witts end with it.
Honestly - when a guy likes us, we like to know, especially when we like you back - which obviously she does. The guy I'm seeing, well - when we're together just the two of us, he's lovely, sweet, we talk a lot - but when we see each other out - he's pretty shy about it. I mean, he's told his friends about the two of us, so it's not like he's embarrassed of me or anything. But he never really does anything with me.
Sometimes if we're in a club we'll kiss, but other than that - nothing. Even if I'm there talking to his friends, he won't do much.
It just makes me feel why bother - and for me, it's definitely got to that point. Don't let it get there for her if you do like her. I'm not saying jump in whenever she's talking to another guy; just talk to her. Make your move and ask where the two of you are. Are you together? Are you a couple.
Be too casual - and she'll begin to think you're not interested.2