Guys, how do you feel about dating younger girls?
Also, how many years apart is too many?
Most Helpful Girl
depends on the guy and his age. there is no set rule.
but beware of guys who are too much older if you are younger than your mid 20s or so. while some older guys can genuinely like, respect, and treat you well, there are many more older guys who have ulterior motives.
if you are under 18, don't go up more than a year.
if you are 18-22 or so, I'd be wary of more than a 5 year difference. Maybe up to 7 years if you are 21 or 22, but even that is a big gap.
Once you are a bit older, have a full time job and pay your own bills, not a student but in the workforce, you can date older guys because you will be more on their footing.
Yes there are exceptions. Sometimes you see 10 year age gaps or more where the girl is pretty young and it works beautifully and he treats her great. But tread with GREAT caution, trust me.
I am a 21 year old girl who has dated a few older guys, and it took more than one to learn my lesson. I'm still dating him but I'm seriously thinking of breaking it off, he's 12 years older.
More times than not, older guys who take interest in girls in their late teens and early 20s are preying. Especially if they are about 10 years older.
It goes like this. She's young and therefore will look up to him more, probably be easier to maneuver and control, will think more highly of him, she will have less baggage, she looks good on his arm. She will probably be easier sexually. She can make a good girl on the side or girl for fun.
Even if he isn't doing it to be malicious, I doubt he will take her so seriously most of the time, because she just doesn't understand life how he does. It can't be a real relationship.
But until you are at their point in life, meaning full adulthood, you are not equals, and if a guy that much older has a younger maturity level or life stage of a younger guy I would be wary too. You should not be equals when you are 21 and the guy is 10 years older.
Take it from a girl who has always been pining to date an older guy. It is really no picnic. I have never trusted a guy I'm involved with less than I trust him. That could also be him as an individual, but majority of people say to avoid much older guys while you are young for a reason.
Of course there are exceptions, but in this day and age I think a LARGE majority (not all, not trying to offend anyone) will have ulterior motives of some kind, it won't be pure.0