The girl I am seeing now seems to believe she can control me and say mean things to me and I will tolerate it. This is the message I have so far:
"I am not afraid of you leaving me. I can be happy without you, and I was happy before you. I love you but I want you to use less terse language with me and be more happy. There are plenty of things I don't like about you too, but I don't focus on them like a laser everyday and try to change them. I just accept it for what it is. Do not think you can intimidate or control me for even a second, and don't assume I will apologize for things you have said or done wrong, it will not happen."
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You don't need to "put her in her place," you need to simply leave her. I'm all for independence and assertiveness but what you described in your update is manipulation. Stooping to her level wouldn't do any good. She might change *someday*, but she's probably not going to realize that what she does is wrong until it ends relationships. Hence leaving her.1