We went on 5 amazing dates..I foolishly slept with him on date number 3 & 5. I thought we had something going but then he just stopped..he said he was busy & distance was an issue because I live about 40mins away. But did he just want sex and not a relationship? So once he got laid he didn't need to take me out anymore?
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Word from the wise:
People that are worth having in your life will stand the test of time.
Establish some sexual boundaries and stand by them. If your partner violates those boundaries, dump them immediately! If they violate your boundaries now, they will violate other boundaries down the road. Believe me!
If your partner tells you that they supposedly "Love You" why not make them prove it to you by refraining from sex, including sleeping over which will eventually lead to sex until you are married? Establish those boundaries and watch how many of them stick around. Men are different animals then women are. We think about sexual matters all the time and when we are very young, we will unknowingly say anything to have sex. (Don't fall for it!)
I too was a young man once and I have had my share of sex outside the context of marriage. It eventually cost me some consequences that I have spent a lifetime paying. First we have sex, eventually someone gets pregnant and maybe we move in together or get married. Then we find out that we're not sure we belong and so what happens? We get divorced and now we have a broken family and legalities come into play like child support and visitation. Not to mention the new spouses that we have to contend with that our ex's have invited into the picture.
Don't think it can't happen to you because it can and will if you continue sleeping with dates outside of marriage. Choose wisely, establish boundaries and put them to the test of time. On your honeymoon you will be glad that you waited.
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