I am in my late 20s..dating 2 women together. A third is on the list. None on them know each other.
Is it okay to keep dating all of them (though it kills me due to lack of time) until you decide which one is the best for you?
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well it isn't wrong to keep dating as long as you haven't committed to any one of them or told them you are exclusive because that goes on the level of lying and cheating bastard.
but if you are looking for a serious relationship, this won't get you there. you either are enjoying the perks without the deal and don't truly want a relationship, or none of them are right so you are just killing time.
people who are not right for boyfriend/girlfriend can be great casual dating partners!
if you want a boyfriend or girlfriend I recommend ending all casual relationships. Don't get into a casual relationship. It doesn't become like that until you have been on quite a few dates and regular contact for more than a few weeks. you have to know what to look for or what you want to commit to, but if you realize you do NOT want to commit to her even though you are attracted and have fun (which is what casual relationships usually are), don't continue seeing her! the finish line is what matters, sure dating someone can be fun but if you want a relationship and this isn't the person you want to be in one with, you are just wasting both peoples' time.
some girls will assume you are exclusive so I would be careful, but it is stupid because girls, you never know until you ask or he makes it very clear. I think you should discuss exclusivity. it can be hard but it's smarter to know. I would bring up my intentions though. if you only want to casual date them say you are not looking for anything serious. you may lose some girls that way but it's better than lying.
if you want a girlfriend I would go by 3 dates multiple women one month one woman. meaning that if you have not dated anyone more than 3 times it is okay to date a few of them at once but by 3 dates you should pick one of them or none of them. then if you really like one keep dating her for a month and by that time decide if you want to be exclusive. also, don't have sex before monogamy. you can decide to be monogamous by the 3rd date.