Like when nothing but a really good nice guy shows one girl that he just wants her and has his mind made up. Why does it seem to freak girls out so much? They'd be so much better off.
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I really wish I could understand this too. But personally, when a guy SUDDENLY gives me all of his attention and makes it obvious that he’s into me and wants a relationship. I freak the hell out and don’t always understand why. Most of it is just insecurities; it’s a lot of pressure to have somebody so suddenly give you their full attention like that. Often it makes me feel like that person thinks too highly of me and will end up being disappointed- especially when I haven’t known that person long. Another part of it is a fear of commitment and maybe settling too fast?
It’s silly stuff mostly but in the moment it can be a lot of pressure. When somebody spills all of their emotional guts out in-front of me I feel like its a lot of responsibility to clean it all up. Speaking as somebody with anxiety as well, I need a little more time to think in those situations or I will freeze up or run away.
In the end, for both people, it’s usually just best to take things slowly and build from there.