You know when you first meet someone and you start dating? You cannot get over how hot this person is. It's almost as if you cannot keep yourself from being all over him/her.
Well, how long does that attraction last for your partner before you start to think they are "just average looking"? Or how long does it take before that period of lust dies out?
I've been in a relationship for a little over 6 years and my man still compliments me on how beautiful I am (almost daily). And checks me out sometimes as if its his first time seeing me.
He tells me that this isn't normal and usually guys after a few years of being with their girl, don't admire her the same way they did as when they first met. Why does this happen?
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Stream of consciousness, first thing that comes to my mind answer:
Attraction fades when you become commonplace
a typecast model acting out the lines from every boring sitcom
where the wife nags the husband and the husband drags his heels
putting your man in this perilous perspective where he feels the vertigo of falling into a trap, the trap made by generations before us, unhappy couples showing their asses to their children, and their neighbors, and making everyone hate the idea of a bad relationship.
When we get on that precipice with our toes hanging off, we slip from the place where we could be lifelong partners, into that other fifty percent of couples that end in divorce.
That's when a man loses sexual desire. When he's confronted with the possibility of unhappy nights for the rest of his life.
So, to conclude, he's not thinking the rest of his nights are going to be so bad. Something about you makes him content, and he doesn't even see the possibility of some edge the whole relationship can drop off of.
He's fine being him, and perfectly fine with you being you, and it sounds like you're happy with him. As long as you two are together, may you always feel this way.0