Does the first serious boyfriend or girlfriend you had or the same type of people you dated in your early adulthood consciously or subconsciously influence the kind of guys or girls you date later...explain/
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I love this question! Have some insight on it. Hope I don't put you to sleep.
Sure, the first partner you meet might have an effect on the others, but the reason you chose that first guy in the first place-- goes way back.
The first people you actually love are your parents, and for women, the first man we love, if he is around is our father.
Whether you knew him or not, he had the absolute most influence on your future partners than any man you have dated. There are lots of new studies on this. The relationship you had with your father will literally dictate the kind of men you attract and the way you expect them to love and treat you. He helps make up what I call your rDNA ( your relationship and dating natural ability)
There are 6 Different Types of Father Daughter relationships that puts out 5 Different types of what I like to call rDNA profiles. For women they are:
The Doting Father: creates the Queen Bee
The Demanding/Supportive Father creates the Lioness
The Domineering Father: Creates the Artist
The Distant Father creates the Tigress
The Absent Father & Sexual Father: creates The Actress
For example, The Actress usually had a non-existent or sexually abusive relationship with her father. Because of this, she is likely to have premature sex, end up in abusive type relationships, and goes for the bad boy, every time. She goes for these kind of guys because that is all she knows and is most comfortable with. I call her the Actress, because she needs the drama in her life. It is her "Normal". So if she were to end up with a nice quiet guy, she'd feel completely uncomfortable and eventually find a way to sabotage it only to end up with another douche.
I won't get into the details, but whether you like the sound of it, our parents are the reason why we love the way we do. For men, its your mother. I'm not talking about physical attraction, as much as I'm referring to How You Love who you love.
Think about the kind of relationship you had with your father. Whether your parents are still together will make a difference, but consider the guys you're attracted to. What kind of guys are they? How do they treat you?
A lot of people don't understand why they're drawn to who they're drawn to and if you don't know your rDNA you can't make the necessary changes internally in order to be able to have healthy long-lasting relationships with the right type of people.
Hope this helped!
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