this guy and I have been talking for 4 months. he warned me he did not want a girlfriend and all that but I continued any ways. I was hoping in time he would grow to really love me. we both do like each other.
in his past he tried to be serious with a girl but he ended up hurt so I think he has been closed off to love ever since. he is basically emotionally unavailable.
he has been great but recently he stopped trying as much. we did not talk for 3 days. when I asked what was up he said he felt I was getting attached and lead on. I lied and said I was not though. basically we are talking but it is not even talking to get any where..it's like we are keeping each other company in the moment and that is the furthest thing I want. I always wanted a serious relationship. I feel like I de valued myself.
the truth is I love the guy. he warned me yes but I thought things could change. I know I need to walk away so that he MIGHT regret it. if I am always there, I feel like he won't. I don't know what to do any more. I am so close to him and his family. I feel like letting go is going to suck. do I walk away silently or do I express myself?
sticking around or not sticking around, either way I don't get what I want. I want someone to love me back. how is it even possible for someone not to get attached over time? he is caring and nice all the time. the fact that he talked to me for months (he usually talks to someone and ends it in 2 weeks time) meant that there could be something there..
ugh. advice? stories? anything?
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will he ever change? No. At least he told you & was up front with you about it. Take it for what it is. He's not going to change.
"he has been great but recently he stopped trying as much"...Kiss of death, when they stop trying, they move on & it's over for them. You can hope all you want, and want for all the hope that you can, but it won't change anything.
Cut your loses and move on. It will hurt, hurt alot. But do it now & like pulling off a bandaid. Just break it off & stop talking to him & stop seeing him. It will be easier to move on. Don't drag it out. Next time you meet a guy & he says he doesn't want a girlfriend, just say, "see ya!"