I went on a date with a guy...it went well the first time. Yes it seems he's the typical horny idiot hoping to get laid or 'something' but I overlooked that--we had good conversation and it was interesting. He acted like he wanted a 'relationship' and asked me that too. We chatted on the phone a few times, then went on a 2nd date/meetup a day after that. We went to dinner and he suggested to go to my place to watch a movie..he suggested that at first too but I said well dinner first I guess. I wanted someone over at my place so I let him come. He tried to sit next to me...during the movie saying "we're sitting too far." most guys say this to me and try to 'cuddle' too fast...so I stopped letting guys come over- I let this guy come because he seemed like a potential real boyfriend, or so I thought. When he tried sitting next to me, it was odd and he was breathing heavy and creepy...i felt uncomfortable and just wanted to watch the movie. He tried putting his arm around me...and kept grabbing me and squeezing me really hard in a lame way. I didn't like what he was doing...and made it clear...I kind of turned away from him and I dint feel right with him getting so close on a 2nd meeting- esp when it was obvious I didn't want it. He kept asking me or saying "sweetie, sweetie- I just want to get close to you"..again lame. When he left...he called and asked me why I felt that way and that he's never been on a date with a girl who didn't want to hold hands...i said you didn't hold hands...you cuddled me awkwardly several times...and he kept rubbing his ugly nose in my shirt...awkwardly...not sexy or sensual or normal at all. Now I'm being critiqued for not being 'affectionate' enough when I expressed to him that I don't know him very well and don't feel comfortable getting affectionate so fast.. what is normal for a 2nd date? is it normal or OK for a girl to not be OK with this? I would think it is but it seems others think so oddly... I had a horrible awkward time and he didn't seem to respect my feelings...im definitely not going to change my morals or feelings based on the attitude of idiot males...but I feel its way too fast to 'cuddle' right away... what do people expect on a 2nd or 3rd date normally? and not guys but i mean what is normal?
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I don't know what's normal but it know that you did the right thing.
If someone doesn't respect your feelings, you know right away that it's not the right one.
It's not weird that you feel that way about a guy you barely know, wanting to cuddle and everything. It's not all guys who just want sex. It's just guys who want sex who try harder to get dates and eventually get good at it.
Try finding one who's not trying to hard.
Personality before looks and charms does really help.
not to imply that you go by looks so no offence intended.
and in a good date nothing is to be expected.
in a good date you try to follow each others rythm and respect that you're different people.