Were 16. Two months ago, I said to a guy "we should hangout tomorrow" since we were at the same vacation place. We had mutually flirted HEAVILY for 7 months (physical contact, EVERYTHING you can imagine), and he only flirted with me, therefore thought he liked me. But he said "ill see cause I made plans already so I don't know, ill let you know" aka no, because when I reject a guy I always say the "ill let you know" line. I accepted this and was planning to act as if nothing happened. But when we got back to school, all of his friends knew that I liked him, he did so much stuff for my attention,tried to flirt with me even after rejecting me! Him showing off to the guys (I've rejected 2 of his best friends) pissed me off. Its like dude if you're gonna reject me, don't let the entire school know. So I ignored him, literally acted as if he didn't exist. Unless he talked to me, I answered appropriately but really cold, to be honest a little bit of a bitch. He began contact in person like 10 times, and in text twice (I gave short answers). My friends even said that my whole aura changes when he´s around. I deleted him from MSN, because I know I won't get over him if I see his name constantly lol. So, did he deserve being ignored?And did I act right? Some will say he's a player, but he only flirted with me. Were in summer vacations so we Haven't spoken. Also, how should I act if he tries flirting with me in the future? Of course, when I get back to school I´ll act cool but never as chitty chatty and playful as we used to be.
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Let me get this straight... you asked the guy to hang out ONCE, and he told you that he might have other plans (it's NORMAL to make plans when you're on vacation!), and for that, you completely cut him out?
IMO, that was a HUGE overreaction and quite immature. The MATURE thing would be to talk to him and just ask him how he feels about you. And by acting this way, you assure that the only guys who approach you in the future will be the ones just looking to bang you, because none of the nice guys will want a girl with such an attitude.
This isn't standing up for yourself (you should always do THAT), this is going WAY overboard because you felt hurt and rejected because YOU initiated and didn't get a solid "yes." What if he'd reacted like you did? You'd never want to approach a guy again, yet that's how you're making most guys feel about YOU.0
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