I am asking this question for a friend of mine because I am concerned.
There is a guy whom she has been seeing and going out with for a month or so now. He has shown a lot of attention, has texted daily and even called her multiple times a day till this day.
Finally he's said that he has strong feelings for her and likes her a lot but there is no hope for a relationship. He literally said "What we share could not have an end".
When she asked why he is still texting and calling too much, he said that he wants to keep on doing so because he has strong feelings for her. What gives?
Of course she is devastated because he's shown a lot of attention and care but said it won't ever work. AND is still calling and texting daily.
My first question is: What does he want from her?
My second question: What is she supposed to do?
P.S. They can't be together ( as he said) because of religion and age difference as well as the fact that he does not want to commit.
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What does he want from her? He wants his cake and to eat it too. In my book, he suffers from classic douche syndrome. Think about how unfair this man is being to her. I believe when you truly love someone, you think about their best interest. In this case, his thinking should be "since we can't be together, I have to let you go". Instead, he tells her, you can't have me, but I want you to be with me. Selfish much?
Your poor friend must be confused and at her wits end with this situation. How can she move on when this guy who claims to love her says there's no chance for a future, but constantly tortures her with these texts and phone calls?
Ultimately, she has to take the reigns over what is happening here. She is allowing him to keep her in limbo. If she's hoping that someday he'll suddenly have a change of heart and give into love, then she's setting herself up for some serious heartache. Since he's not letting go, she has to be the one to let go. She's allowing him to do this crap. She has to tell him to stop calling and texting. If he does not, she has to block him, in every which way. He needs to understand that she has a life, and has a right to find someone who wants to give himself wholly, and that he is standing in the way of that.
It will be hard for her to do it at first. But what is happening here, is a lack of self worth. She needs to build herself up high enough to realize that this guy isn't worth the heart ache or the time. It's time she starts to love herself. As her friend, be there to support her, but you also need to be the one to tell her the hard truth.
This guy is a problem.