why every time I'm in a relationship I feel like I'm not really into the relationship even tho I really like the person but I know myself and in my mind I don't wanna get hurt so I feel the need to not get attached and be realistic that the relationship won't last and so I feel like I'm cold towards my partners and I hate feeling like they really like me and care for me and once I get bored of them I hurt them and I don't mean to but its just how I am and I don't know what to do.
idk why I'm like this. is this normal? is it just a phase? I don't wanna keep hurting my lovers. its like I like them at first and then I just lose all feelings/interest and need to move on and I hate it when they seem so heart broken because I don't like hurting people and it makes me wonder will I also get hurt like that by someone?
i mean it always starts nice, I like the guy, he makes me happy, then I start being a bitch I get bored I break up with them and the cycle continues and every time I keep in my mind that this kind of relationships don't last and love is all fake and corny
I'm still young and will have more relationships but my ex's always seem to think we will last a long time but in my mind I'm always doubting it because I know I will get bored :/ is this bad?
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If you're not leading them on, you can't control if your ex's thought it was forever. You're just not ready for a relationship, and you said it yourself, you're afraid of getting hurt. You just have to find the guy you're willing to hurt over. Part of the fun of dating is getting hurt. I mean that sincerely. Pining madly for something that won't work, thinking up ways to change yourself so they'll love you. It's a great lesson.
You have to care for the relationship to work, and if you care you risk getting hurt. Only the brave and reckless fall in love. If anything, keep dating, but keep it casual.1