How can I meet a respectful genuine guy for a potential relationship?
Why does it feel like most guys I meet are either only looking for something casual or asking too much from a girl in terms of not even seeing her as an equal in terms of a human being?
And lastly is it just me or are most so called religious guys the worst of the lot? They pretend to want to be good for God when really they're just not nice people at all
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The truth is - it's very hard to draw a line who is "good" and who is "bad" - very very few people fit exactly to those types while the vast majority are somewhere in between, more or less to one side.
Guys don't seek relationships for the sake of relationships, we seek companionship, we like girls who are down-to-earth and with a good sense of humour, once that is found - the relationship itself will appear, but almost none of us have such set in mind - "I'm going to get into a relationship" - because relationship alone by itself is not a warranty that you'll enjoy being in it.
Yes, it's a trend that many guys want only sex, but they're not that common as it seems. They're only those who swarm in bars and clubs, while the most of men are perfectly able to see women also as persons not just as pieces of meat. The problem is that such clubs and bars are designed for meeting someone of the opposite gender, so it creates an illusion that "there's no-one good around"
If you live in the Middle East you can forget about finding a man who sees you as an equal human being, but if you don't then well.. I don't know what to say.
Everyone have standards, and nobody is willing to date "below" of what they can get, if guys constantly, not just few random ones ask more from you than you can give, then maybe you're aiming too high or not trying good-enough from your side. Many girls expect the guy to do everything and "not to be shallow" - it's almost worldwide trend.. and also the reason why many girls are single.
Religiosity, especially accompanied with hypocrisy (yes - I'm talking about your Jesus cult) is a widespread problem in the USA, people are not any better only because they believe in some kind of a deity, people can be good or bad regardless of their faith.. or lack of it. Although I personally haven't been dealing with religious people much.. or basically at all, in Northern Europe most of people are not religious and those few who are, they're "flexible" and cool about it, they're not hardcore freaks like in other places in the world when it comes to religion.
The best way how can you find your match is through friends, attending events where are people from your "circle" instead of random ones, as it's more likely you'll find someone you like and can get along with - birds of a feather. While in completely random places you'll meet completely random people and the chances are you won't really like them, although even there you can succeed - just by having way more luck though.
...damn - this crap I wrote is way longer than I thought.. nevermind, I hope I managed to express my thoughts clearly enough.6