So I've dated two guys with whom I've expressed I had no problem with them talking to their exes. The first one I admitted that I didn't even think his ex was that good looking and he shot right back that I shouldn't be so confident and that she was a really good looking girl. I was confused. I didn't know if he was serious. His ex was cute but not intimidatingly so. And his friends as well as the girl's sister even admitted I was the prettiest girl he dated so I know she wasn't a threat looks wise. Plus she was really crazy so I wasn't just basing my opinion on prettiness.
Then with another boyfriend I admitted I wasn't intimidated by his ex because I knew her for a 10+ years and knew that she cheated on every guy she'd been with. Plus she was really far off on drugs. He shot back that I shouldn't be so sure of myself because she has some really good qualities. This one I wasn't as mad at because I know the girl and if he really wanted her he could have her back.
I just don't know why men do this? I can kinda understand the second guy Because he still had feelings but number one didn't. Doing this stuff just turns us into the type of crazy jealous bitches you all hate. Like I used to be such a non-jealous laid-back girl and now I'm always looking over my shoulder and being suspicious. WHY guys? Why?
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It's a bit irrational, but saying that his ex wasn't all that good looking make him sort of feel like..."he's" not that great. Think about it, if you said, wow, she's hot! The idea is, you'd be thinking... Wow! How'd you get her? "I'm so lucky you chose me!...I'm not worthy!"
Instead, you tell him, she's aiiiight...which makes him feel like you're saying, I'm a much better catch. "You" should feel lucky to have "me". Convoluted...I know, but the level or type of girl a guy is able to pull is tied to his manliness and coolness factor.
So when you say, she 'aint all 'dat, he thinks you're saying, he ain't all 'dat either!0