3 month relationship, I'm 30 and know what I want, she's 26 and not so much. (although she says she knows she wants to be with me and that means no kids)
I've struggled since the beginning with her not being very talkative since I am so outgoing and she is shy...and then I had very big issues with her not being affectionate physically nor verbally (I always initiate, she reciprocates), I am also the one always paying for stuff and rarely a thank you. I just don't feel like 'the man', and we've had a chat about the affection stuff...she apologized and said she'd work on it, but it is not her nature (no hugs in her family ever)
I am going on vacation soon with a bunch of friends to vegas and can't help but wonder if I should be single on it so I can really enjoy myself, (as in I may be beating a dead horse with this relationship, maybe I should cut it short early) I feel so lonely and unwanted, but maybe I am too sensitive. Do I break it off? DO I wait? If I do break it off, what the heck do I say? The very thought of it freaks me out..
omg this is so painful, and awkward
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This is complicated because I went through something very similar. I was also around 7 years older than my boyfriend, and in the beginning, after a couple months, I broke it off to date someone else because he was not affectionate at all. Dating the other guy didn't work and we stayed in touch and later got back together and in a serious relationship. He stepped up. He became so much more affectionate and really tried and after dating him over a year, we were doing so good. We were very different, but if worked, and I know he really cared because he started holding my hand in public (his issue was more with PDA) and showing affection, just really doing what I needed him to.
This issue I would be wary of is that you know what you want and she doesn't. This is exactly what happened with us, and we broke up. It was horrible because I was seriously in love with him and wanted a future together. But he was unsure of himself in many ways, including our relationship. It's up to you to try it, but just be warned it you aren't exactly on the same page, you could catch up to each other, but if could be a big point of contention if you want to settle down and she doesn't. Good luck!