Okay so My girlfriend has been gone for the weekend and I haven't seen her in a week. We barely even talked why she was gone because the phone bill would have been ridiculous. However we still had the option of FB chat. Either way she just got back 2 days ago and never texted me so yesterday I sent her a text saying "hey, I miss you" and she responded saying she misses me too and that we should hang out soon. So I told her the days I was a available but she never responded. So this morning I tell her to call me later today so we can work out a time to hang out and she agreed. I figure out from a mutual friend that she is hanging out with some guy today which is her "best friend" and is "like a brother to her" but she hangs out with him over me many times. I talk to some of me and his mutual friends about this and they laugh at me saying there is nothing going on and that I'm silly for even thinking so, that he is a Nice guy if they ever saw one and that he is always friendzoned. To me since I don't know him... he is competition, another male competing for time with my girlfriend and he's got me beat. She talks him up like he's the best person ever, makes time for him and not me and in a few cases ditched me for him, gets excited when he texts her and will ignore me when texting him. If you ask me, that is f***ing weird as hell and fishy. All of our mutual friends tell me that she would never cheat and that she likes me a lot. If she does, she sure has a funny way of showing it. I like this girl... a lot, I've been waiting 3 months for her not to be busy and she told me once its the summer that she will be able to hang out more but its 2 weeks in and we still Haven't moved on from out once a week hang outs. How do I talk to her about this, Its killing me emotionally and I really want t work this out but I just don't know how to approach it
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I wouldn't give her an ultimatum, she'll feel cornered and pushed. If someone would tell me: it's me or the other, I'd choose the other because the other didn't make me choose.
I'd just talk to her about it, tell her you feel uncomfortable and that you feel pushed aside by her because of him. Tell her how you feel about all this, even though maybe you don't like talking about it. Other actions are "allowed" when you talk about it, she knows it and she still doesn't change her habits.
Give her benefit of the doubt and at least let her know.
Also, but I'm not an expert and sometimes quite childish when it comes to making effort, if she's not making any effort, neither should you. If you're in a relationship it's a two way street, not a one way street with some parkingspots. Let her make some effort too!
If she doesn't do anything to meet up or to hear or see you, you need to talk to her about that as well.
Hope it works out!0