What is your opinion on this? When you are in the younger stages of life (i.e. 15-25) should you have serious relationships? I have had very few and none longer than 7 months. I am quite happy.
Although I loved my ex, at the end of the day, she is still my ex and that is 7 months gone with someone. I can't imagine people that date for several years and then just end up breaking up 5 years down the line.
I think being free and having fun at this stage is very important, or else you won't have any experience and you won't have much knowledge of what you really like and you might end up settling too soon. How will you know you are with the love of your life when you have only dated one person all your life?
Maybe it is cynical of me but... I mean the other day I almost had a threesome (two girls)... I have a lot of regular sex and never get too attached. Also I don't limit my self and meet many new people, date a lot, I have dated women from many different cultures, backgrounds, and ethnicity. If I just stayed with one person all this time, I can't help but think I would have missed out on a lot of things, missed out on a lot of experiences and growing up that comes with not being attached to one person. I don't say I never will, but I think I will wait until I have been around the block a few time before I pick someone to get serious with.
Whats your opinion?
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my mom definitely feels that way. she's been with my dad since she was 16 and she pretty much made it very clear - don't do it. she's very unhappy and I learn from her.
i think it depends on what you want in life. I would never get married young because I want more from life than a family and marriage limits your ability (or willingness) to go where you would have gone or do what you would have done otherwise.
serious, unmarried relationships can work in the same way. I've never really dated anyone, so I've never had to worry about that but I have had friends pass up great opportunities because they didn't want to be away from their bfs. I think that's f***ing stupid but that's love for many people.
i wouldn't say I have a rule against it, but my life is pretty busy right now and I'm not so young anymore anyway - ill be 23 soon. I can't even believe it.
i don't think id have those same problems only because I've been able to grow up into an adult by myself and not on someones arm like my mother. also I have a different personality, I'm a different person.
i honestly do not think you should do what my mom did - be with your high school love and marry them and never be apart. it stifles true growth and you don't get to see what you're really capable of as independent person. and the dynamics of that relationship can lead to unhappiness, unfulfilled desires, feeling trapped (like my mom). I really want to be in a relationship only because I've been single for like forever. I don't think that means you can't ever have casual sex but if you look at life as a limited time for you to do anything (and most people do) and you feel like "omg settling down comes when older so must do all sex now" then I can see how you would feel that way.
my friend was in love with this guy who was not having any kind of relationship. I was kind of in love with him too but she started on him first and I could see that I would end up with a whole lot of nothing, and a lot of crying, if I went down that road. and that's exactly what she got.
so here's what I think - different things are good for different people depending on what you want in life in general or just at whatever stage you're in. make it match up with what you really want. you will always miss out on something - no one can have it all at one time. if you're single, you may think couples have what you're missing. if you're a couple, you may envy single people. and it goes on like this forever. that's life. do what you want and be honest with people. if you want a threesome, and so do they - go for it.
i just advise anyone out there to not pursue someone if they are not interested in relationships. its frustrating as hell and will only get you hurt. everyone needs to find those who are compatible with them and move on from chasing the unattainable.