One guy is my boyfriend, the other is my best guy friend. I have known my best friend since 7th grade, we're 18 and 19 now, so it's been a while. I knew he had feelings for me way back when and I politely turned him down, We still talked all the time and kept in contact over the years and I saw him in school over the next 2 years. He told me about his feelings for me in my freshman year of high school but I just kind of brushed them off. Not rudely, but I was surprised he still felt that way. And then..the feelings began to grow from then on. Fast forward to 10th -11th grade. I had a boyfriend, but it didn't work out. My best friend was my therapist. we talked about everything, gave each other advice and was there when my ex broke my heart. Later that year I went into ANOTHER relationship. I met this guy, we didn't really talk for as long, but we started dating. He loves me a lot and I still have strong feelings for him. Things were going great for about 2 years...and then he moved to Japan with his family. Then we are kind of 'broken up" because I just can't handle the distance anymore (I'm in the States). I have very strong feelings for both guys. They treat me well, they are kind, and considerate of my feelings, its extraordinary and I feel lucky to have them both. In spite of this, I feel lonely. I told by boyfriend about my feelings and he wants me to choose. I don't want to hurt either of them...I don't know what to do
Trapped between two guys...
What Guys Said 1
Well, it's obvious you should date an older guy. My dance card appears to be empty right now, I'm talking to a couple of girls but I think they have other issues going on. I love petite, intelligent women.
And of course, I'm not serious, I'm old enough to be your dad.
We old dudes don't get much play from girls your age.
Okay, that's taken care of.
Just from reading this once, it's obvious that you belong with the friend. Don't be nervous about it and just make your move. He's probably wanted to kiss you for years. It sounds like your boyfriend understands and won't have much of an issue with it.1
What Girls Said 1
that seems really confusing but you also need to choose what's best for you if your not sure about either of them and don't want to hurt them then maybe neither of them because if your trying to avoid hurting the other then maybe its less painfull if it neither and less thinking on you to choose between them but if you really want to choose between on then take ypur time on choosing .0
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