Okay I am at my limit, what is with some girls? You are with a crappy guy but because you love him you just can't say no!
My friend is in a bad relationship he puts her down and he hangs out with his "ex" friend with benefits even though he said he wouldn't, on one occasion when they were fighting he slept with another girl.
And I'm the guy who she turns to, I am her shoulder to cry on. She has left many times but each time goes back the ex friends with benefits was the latest in a long line of fights that ended with her leaving. And she says she wants to leave that leaving is best, then right as I am about to pass out my phone rings with her calling me telling me she went back to him!
I am at me end here I am out of supportive things to say, and I am honestly tired of being woken up by her calling to cry on my shoulder. I don't get why she won't leave, she doesn't get why she won't leave.
I honestly don't care anymore, I know I can just tell her not to call or put my phone on silent but I am not that person, if I know someone it hurting I have a stupid desire to help.
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She'll never leave him, and she'll never listen to sense. You've just got to accept it. I've been in your situation, the boyfriend wasn't nearly as bad but I was filling in for the role of boyfriend where it actually counted - pretty much what you're doing. The only way things will be over between those two is when he ends it, and even then he'll probably keep rearing his ugly head and screwing her over when he feels like it.
She's insecure and terrified of being single, like just having a boyfriend is enough to validate her existence, and I'm guessing she's never been single for any prolonged period. She wants to love him, and hopes that by showing him her love he'll eventually come around (like most girls that date scumbags).
There's a few things you're going to have to tell her:
You can't keep telling her the same thing every time they fight if she's just going to ignore it
You can't keep filling in for her boyfriend. If she can't talk to her boyfriend about anything and everything, she ought to realize that something is seriously wrong.
You can't carry on watching her do this to herself.
She deserves better. I know you've already told her this, but she needs to believe it and start acting like it.
Sorry dude, its not going to be easy or pleasant.0