Putting a very long story short, this girl, we'll call her Stacy, dated a guy 'Rick' for over a year. As we found out later Rick had really been only interested in trying to get Stacy's roommate to hook up with him, but contented with hooking up with Stacy until that happened. He kept getting more and more insistent though, and eventually told Stacy he'd break up with her unless she convinced her roommate to sleep with him. Stacy couldn't believe what was going on, and had really fallen hard for Rick believing he cared only for her. She broke up with him... but only because her roommate flat out refused to sleep with Rick.
It's been 2 years. I became close friends with Stacy, and we dated briefly early on until she randomly left me one night and hooked up with Rick. She later showed me the text she got from him that he was going to cut himself if she didn't... but after that I couldn't trust Stacy enough to date her again. It wasn't til Rick threatened to rape Stacy's roommate that I stepped in, called the police, and got in contact with the guy's parents (he's a 21 year old at college), who put him in a mental hospital for 3 months.
He's out now, and once again harassing Stacy. Stacy still cares for the guy, but is refusing to hook up with him for obvious reasons. Which is pissing off Rick, who just wants to get laid at this point. I found out last night when I ran into Stacy crying in the street that he was threatening to cut himself 'because of her' again. She was going to him to try to talk him out of it.
I've told Stacy repeatedly she just needs to accept he's going to be angry with her (he is all the time anyway) and cut ties with him, she isn't responsible. She just won't.
Is there anything I can possibly do here?
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Besides the room mate, everyone involved in this story is an idiot
Your an idiot for multiple reasons, trying to save someone who CLEARLY does not want to be saved and then getting involved with someone who openly bailed on you to hook up with their demented ex ?
Stacey is a complete idiot
Rick is an idiot but at least he is psychologically corrupt and has half an excuse
everyone is a idiot
You deserved to be tangled up in this tragic triangle...
I just don't know how you can stand there and allow yourself to be slapped multiple times in the face by this girl
I really don't